NOTES FROM BECOMING The part no one warns you about I thought choosing myself would feel like relief.Freedom.Lightness.A sense of rightness settling into place. Instead, what arrived first was grief. Not sharp grief — aching grief.A sadness that surprised me with its depth.A quiet, persistent sense of failure that stayed far longer than I expected. […]
After Choosing Yourself Read Post »
The first time I chose myself, I lost my footing — and gained agency. A reflection on divorce, misfit, and learning to trust your own knowing.
From childhood, most of us learn to confuse adaptation with aptitude. We become reliable, useful, compliant — or rebellious, difficult, “the problem one” — and call it “who we are.” This essay is about the quieter truth underneath: the work that has always fitted our hands, the aptitudes that never left, and the small, honest steps back toward a life that feels like our own.
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A quiet reflection on how life shapes us before we choose — and how leisure, pace, and attention form the kind of person we become.
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Some texts arrive before we know why they matter.
This passage from John Dewey is one I’ve carried for years — returning whenever questions of work, aptitude, and meaning resurface.
Texts I Carry — Dewey (Aptitude & Occupation) Read Post »
From childhood, most of us learn to confuse adaptation with aptitude. We become reliable, useful, compliant — or rebellious, difficult, “the problem one” — and call it “who we are.” This essay is about the quieter truth underneath: the work that has always fitted our hands, the aptitudes that never left, and the small, honest steps back toward a life that feels like our own.
The Work That Fits: Returning to the Aptitudes We Lost Along the Way Read Post »
From the moment we arrive, we’re being shaped by blueprints we never consciously agreed to. This Notes from Becoming essay explores the hidden curriculum of our lives — what we absorbed without knowing, what it’s still teaching us, and how we begin to rewrite it, one small shift at a time.
The Hidden Curriculum Read Post »
“I read because the real hunger under all our scrolling isn’t for something new, it’s for something true.”
This is where I begin the Reading Journey — holding old ideas up against a muddy, modern life to see what still holds.
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