The Dismantling Phase
Some phases of life are not transitions. They are dismantling phases — where the old structure stops holding long before the new one exists.
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The Life We Are Able to Hold
Sometimes the path forward does not look like progress. It looks like a circle — leaving, returning, searching again. This essay explores why we sometimes circle before becoming capable of holding the life we truly want.
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After Choosing Yourself
NOTES FROM BECOMING The part no one warns you about I thought choosing myself would feel like relief.Freedom.Lightness.A sense of rightness settling into place. Instead, what arrived first was grief. Not sharp grief — aching grief.A sadness that surprised me with its depth.A quiet, persistent sense of failure that stayed far longer than I expected.
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Choosing Yourself
The first time I chose myself, I lost my footing — and gained agency. A reflection on divorce, misfit, and learning to trust your own knowing.
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It Is Love Made Visible
From childhood, most of us learn to confuse adaptation with aptitude. We become reliable, useful, compliant — or rebellious, difficult, “the problem one” — and call it “who we are.” This essay is about the quieter truth underneath: the work that has always fitted our hands, the aptitudes that never left, and the small, honest steps back toward a life that feels like our own.
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Conversations
On Being Formed · A conversation with Adler
A quiet reflection on how life shapes us before we choose — and how leisure, pace, and attention form the kind of person we become.
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Texts I Carry
Texts I Carry — Dewey (Aptitude & Occupation)
Some texts arrive before we know why they matter.
This passage from John Dewey is one I’ve carried for years — returning whenever questions of work, aptitude, and meaning resurface.
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The Work That Fits: Returning to the Aptitudes We Lost Along the Way
From childhood, most of us learn to confuse adaptation with aptitude. We become reliable, useful, compliant — or rebellious, difficult, “the problem one” — and call it “who we are.” This essay is about the quieter truth underneath: the work that has always fitted our hands, the aptitudes that never left, and the small, honest steps back toward a life that feels like our own.
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The Hidden Curriculum
From the moment we arrive, we’re being shaped by blueprints we never consciously agreed to. This Notes from Becoming essay explores the hidden curriculum of our lives — what we absorbed without knowing, what it’s still teaching us, and how we begin to rewrite it, one small shift at a time.
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Conversations
Why I Read · A Conversation
“I read because the real hunger under all our scrolling isn’t for something new, it’s for something true.”
This is where I begin the Reading Journey — holding old ideas up against a muddy, modern life to see what still holds.
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